What do You Believe About Time?By
I think lack of time is the number one obstacle for people wanting to start creating again or wishing they were doing it more.
And it’s easy to see why–our speed-driven culture creates high expectations of how much we should get done and how fast we should be able to do it.
But if we could change our relationship with Time–find our true personal rhythms–then all kinds of possibilities open up.
That’s the premise behind Slow Time: Recovering the Natural Rhythm of Life by Waverly Fitzgerald. I’m only on chapter 3 so far, but I’m really excited by what she talks about, and I think it’s a great resource for anyone who feels like time is out of their control.
One of the first things she asks you is to explore your own beliefs about Time–ideas you might not even realize you embrace because they feel so natural, you’re so used to them, that they just seem like “The Truth”.
Many of these ideas come not only from the culture, but from your particular family.
For instance, I always feel like I’m in a hurry. And I realized that a big belief I learned from my upbringing was that hurrying signified being serious about something.
Conversely, being slow signified being overly relaxed, too casual–not taking something seriously. Therefore, if I cared about something, I had to do it in a hurry or I wasn’t taking it seriously
Whew, let me tell you, that hurrying belief wears me out.
It’s also very difficult to actually hurry through learning new things (which I’m constantly doing), so I usually feel like I’m taking too long to do just about anything–which means I’m also feeling like I can’t measure up. More exhaustion.
But when I think about my notions about hurrying as a belief I have instead of just being the truth or the nature of things, well then I’ve got a fighting chance to stop that pattern and allow a new belief to take its place–one that still incorporates my values and the things I want for myself–such as being productive or doing good work.
Here’s a few new beliefs affirmations I’m playing with:
>When I take my time, I do better work.
>I accomplish more when I’m relaxed and present.
>I feel good, think well, and accomplish a lot when I take my time.
>I make better artwork when I pay attention, take my time, and let my understandings unfold naturally.
>I prefer to pay attention to what I’m doing without multi-tasking.
Creating a New Paradigm
Our beliefs about time are very tangled up with how we do everything in our lives–when I think about my hurrying belief, I see how it impacts everything I do–how I clean the dishes, how I drive, how I create.
When I interrupt my usual patterns and slow down, it’s a great feeling because I’m allowing myself more. When everything isn’t urgent, it helps me remember my priorities. And one of those priorities is my creativity.
It’s exciting to realize I have the opportunity to interrupt what isn’t working for me about how I experience Time and begin creating a new paradigm for myself, based on my own best nature.
Frankly, it’s just so nice to realize that I have a say in all that. That I don’t have to go through life feeling like there’s never enough time to do what I want.
That how I experience time is up to me.
And since my time is my life, this ain’t no small thing!
Your Time and Your Creativity
How about you? Do you know what your beliefs about Time are? How do they impact what you do and what you allow yourself? Please share in the comments–I’d love to hear.